Funeral Services will be held @
Chapel of the Chimes, in Hayward
32992 Mission Blvd
Hayward, CA 94544
http://www.lifemarkgroup.com/hayward/index.aspx
Viewing:
Tuesday, July 19, from 4pm - 9pm
Wednesday, July 20, from 9am - 10am
Service:
Wednesday July 20 @ 10am
The burial will follow
Gathering:
Wednesday, July 20 from 12pm to 5pm
At the Masonic Lodge in Hayward
1074 B Street
Hayward, CA 94541
We will have a light luncheon available, if you wish to bring food please feel free to bring either a entree or a dessert to share, to those who wish to come and celebrate Valerie's life, with dessert to follow.
We will also have an open forum during the gathering where people are encouraged to share life experiences with Valerie.
We will have Soda and Bottled water available, if you would like anything specific please feel free to bring it.
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Thursday, July 14, 2011
May 17,1958 - July 13, 2011
Rest In Peace Mommy...
Valerie Jean Aldrete passed away around 8:45pm last night.
Please check back in for details regarding the funeral arrangements. We are look at the beginning of next week...
Please give the family the space to grieve and heal as we are going through a difficult time. We want to remember her full of life, happy and grateful for everything she had.
God Bless.
Valerie Jean Aldrete passed away around 8:45pm last night.
Please check back in for details regarding the funeral arrangements. We are look at the beginning of next week...
Please give the family the space to grieve and heal as we are going through a difficult time. We want to remember her full of life, happy and grateful for everything she had.
God Bless.
Sunday, July 10, 2011
Saying Goodbye...
This may be the easiest way to get the word out.
On Friday, July 8, my mom suffered from another cardiac arrest. She is stable and somewhat back to her same condition.
After speaking with the doctors and getting several opinions, the family has decided to respect Valerie's wishes through the discontinuation of medical care and make her the most comfortable as she passes.
This decision, as difficult as it is, is the best choice for Valerie after the doctors informed us that her brain has begun to atrophy and her ability to recover from another inevitable cardiac arrest would be hard to overcome. Starting tomorrow evening, comfort care will begin.
We ask that you please respect the family in this time of grief and give us the space to say our goodbyes. For those who wish to say goodbye please call before coming by the hospital for address or directions.
Please continue to look for updates on the blog as the arrangements for the funeral are in place I will be making phone calls and posting information.
God Bless.
On Friday, July 8, my mom suffered from another cardiac arrest. She is stable and somewhat back to her same condition.
After speaking with the doctors and getting several opinions, the family has decided to respect Valerie's wishes through the discontinuation of medical care and make her the most comfortable as she passes.
This decision, as difficult as it is, is the best choice for Valerie after the doctors informed us that her brain has begun to atrophy and her ability to recover from another inevitable cardiac arrest would be hard to overcome. Starting tomorrow evening, comfort care will begin.
We ask that you please respect the family in this time of grief and give us the space to say our goodbyes. For those who wish to say goodbye please call before coming by the hospital for address or directions.
Please continue to look for updates on the blog as the arrangements for the funeral are in place I will be making phone calls and posting information.
God Bless.
Tuesday, June 28, 2011
clean out
Hi all,
thanks for being patient as I find out what I need to post next. There is nothing really new to report.
She is still in a minimally conscious state. There are times where she will make a connection with us and she'll try to say things or follow commands, but those times are few far in between.
She did say "no" the other day as she was in the bed with the therapist working on her, but that was it.
Over the weekend we did have the doctors clean her out of her meds and find out what her baseline is. Unfortunately, since not being on any wake up drugs she isn't really doing a whole lot and shes not responding to much.
They are going to start her out on another med soo and start experimenting more with different combinations. Pray that we are able to make a connection and get her to where she needs to be.
Good day and God Bless.
thanks for being patient as I find out what I need to post next. There is nothing really new to report.
She is still in a minimally conscious state. There are times where she will make a connection with us and she'll try to say things or follow commands, but those times are few far in between.
She did say "no" the other day as she was in the bed with the therapist working on her, but that was it.
Over the weekend we did have the doctors clean her out of her meds and find out what her baseline is. Unfortunately, since not being on any wake up drugs she isn't really doing a whole lot and shes not responding to much.
They are going to start her out on another med soo and start experimenting more with different combinations. Pray that we are able to make a connection and get her to where she needs to be.
Good day and God Bless.
Monday, June 6, 2011
her first words...
"MY ARM HURTS!!"
Yes thats right she is starting to talk, well forming actual words and not just making sounds. Its still a little hard to understand though.
We are working on trying to get this on camera or for the doctors to see so that she can continue on at Kentfield.
Yesterday I bought a flip camera that will hopefully catch all of her activity! YES!
For me, I think this is huge... for her to know that she is in pain, then to associate this pain with her arm and know this is what is hurting, BIG STEP!
Otherwise she is doing awesome! They started her on new meds to see if she will wake up but nothing too major yet, well other than her talk of course!
From a personal stand point, I have several people that I can talk to about what I am going through and all of you have been wonderful enough to let me know that you are all here for me and the family, which we appreciate. That being said this blog is my outlet, a way for me to share things that allow unbiased opinions or a way for me to vent so that I can get it off my chest without having to tell someone the story and hear their reactions. I want all of you to know that I appreciate your concern, but it is very difficult for me to share my feelings, opinions and what is actually going on with her, if I or anyone in my family has to field a panel of questions following it, its exhausting! Yes, this is all scary and we are hopeful for a speedy recovery. However, this road to recovery has its ups and downs and we all have to take it with a grain of salt and take the good in with the bad. This blog is a fact, not sugar coated to make this process easier. On the days that I write not such great news, its not that I want to write that, but it is what it is, don't question it.
I am not saying these things so that you do not call and continue to ask how she is doing or how that family is doing. I want the continued support, prayers and best wishes. This blog is fact... so trust that I am telling you what we know and trust in the process. It is a long road ahead of us, and I want to take you along the way.
I hope everyone has an awesome Monday, good day and God Bless.
Yes thats right she is starting to talk, well forming actual words and not just making sounds. Its still a little hard to understand though.
We are working on trying to get this on camera or for the doctors to see so that she can continue on at Kentfield.
Yesterday I bought a flip camera that will hopefully catch all of her activity! YES!
For me, I think this is huge... for her to know that she is in pain, then to associate this pain with her arm and know this is what is hurting, BIG STEP!
Otherwise she is doing awesome! They started her on new meds to see if she will wake up but nothing too major yet, well other than her talk of course!
From a personal stand point, I have several people that I can talk to about what I am going through and all of you have been wonderful enough to let me know that you are all here for me and the family, which we appreciate. That being said this blog is my outlet, a way for me to share things that allow unbiased opinions or a way for me to vent so that I can get it off my chest without having to tell someone the story and hear their reactions. I want all of you to know that I appreciate your concern, but it is very difficult for me to share my feelings, opinions and what is actually going on with her, if I or anyone in my family has to field a panel of questions following it, its exhausting! Yes, this is all scary and we are hopeful for a speedy recovery. However, this road to recovery has its ups and downs and we all have to take it with a grain of salt and take the good in with the bad. This blog is a fact, not sugar coated to make this process easier. On the days that I write not such great news, its not that I want to write that, but it is what it is, don't question it.
I am not saying these things so that you do not call and continue to ask how she is doing or how that family is doing. I want the continued support, prayers and best wishes. This blog is fact... so trust that I am telling you what we know and trust in the process. It is a long road ahead of us, and I want to take you along the way.
I hope everyone has an awesome Monday, good day and God Bless.
Monday, May 23, 2011
Happy Birthday Valerie
Good Morning and Happy Monday!
Sorry for the every two week posts now. Unfortunately, I only want to post if there is a lot to say.
Last Tuesday was her birthday, a very hard day, but she had a lot of visitors and a lot of activity which made it a good day for her.
People brought flowers, balloons, cake, Lumpias, cards and best wishes for her speedy recovery.
As I missed being able to do my tradition of calling her first thing in the morning and singing Happy Birthday to her and then going to dinner with her at her newest favorite restaurant in Tracy, we had to settle for singing to her in bed, eating hospital food and laying in bed with her, and hugging her so that she knows we are all there for her.
In terms of her progress, as per what the doctor has told us, her tremors are inhibiting her from waking up. Her seizures are under control. But in order to make her tremors stop, they have to sedate her to some extent, but sedating her will make her sleepy and not able to wake up anyways, so its a catch 22.
I ask of you all now, if you have a chance, and if it is not hard for you to do so, please go visit her. The visitors have dropped off and I feel her everyday life was filled with different people everyday, and she had such deep connections with all of you, that she is missing that. I know it is a far drive, but if you have a chance to do that, that would be great. I know she would love it, and the family would love it too.
She is at Kentfield Rehabilitation & Specialty Hospital
1125 Sir Francis Drake Blvd.
Kentfield, CA 94904
Hope all is well.
Good Day and God Bless
Sorry for the every two week posts now. Unfortunately, I only want to post if there is a lot to say.
Last Tuesday was her birthday, a very hard day, but she had a lot of visitors and a lot of activity which made it a good day for her.
People brought flowers, balloons, cake, Lumpias, cards and best wishes for her speedy recovery.
As I missed being able to do my tradition of calling her first thing in the morning and singing Happy Birthday to her and then going to dinner with her at her newest favorite restaurant in Tracy, we had to settle for singing to her in bed, eating hospital food and laying in bed with her, and hugging her so that she knows we are all there for her.
In terms of her progress, as per what the doctor has told us, her tremors are inhibiting her from waking up. Her seizures are under control. But in order to make her tremors stop, they have to sedate her to some extent, but sedating her will make her sleepy and not able to wake up anyways, so its a catch 22.
I ask of you all now, if you have a chance, and if it is not hard for you to do so, please go visit her. The visitors have dropped off and I feel her everyday life was filled with different people everyday, and she had such deep connections with all of you, that she is missing that. I know it is a far drive, but if you have a chance to do that, that would be great. I know she would love it, and the family would love it too.
She is at Kentfield Rehabilitation & Specialty Hospital
1125 Sir Francis Drake Blvd.
Kentfield, CA 94904
Hope all is well.
Good Day and God Bless
Monday, May 9, 2011
mothers day
Hi Everyone,
thank you for being patient with me. As I said before, if there are little to no improvements there will be no post, so just continue to bear with me as I post on this as much as time allows me.
SO far she is still improving a little each day. she is still in a minimal conscious state and is trying to wake up and do somethings.
According to Dr. Waters, its seems that they have subsided the seizures. Now they arer working on different medications to try to wake her up.
She hasn't had any new tests run.
she has more regular sleep and wake patterns is seems, and she has been awake more and trying to do little things.
She can still follow some simple commands, it just takes longer to process.
She is trying hard to talk and do somethings its just more difficult for her to do them at times.
Yesterday I spent a nice day with her. It was somewhat warm and we were able to take her outside and and we brought buddy to the hospital and he was able to jump up and lick her and she winced like she didn't like it. It was nice to finally have her outside, you could tell she liked being in the sun and soaking up the rays. She is with us, she can hear us... she is taking some well deserved time and rest.
Keep praying. Good day and God Bless.
thank you for being patient with me. As I said before, if there are little to no improvements there will be no post, so just continue to bear with me as I post on this as much as time allows me.
SO far she is still improving a little each day. she is still in a minimal conscious state and is trying to wake up and do somethings.
According to Dr. Waters, its seems that they have subsided the seizures. Now they arer working on different medications to try to wake her up.
She hasn't had any new tests run.
she has more regular sleep and wake patterns is seems, and she has been awake more and trying to do little things.
She can still follow some simple commands, it just takes longer to process.
She is trying hard to talk and do somethings its just more difficult for her to do them at times.
Yesterday I spent a nice day with her. It was somewhat warm and we were able to take her outside and and we brought buddy to the hospital and he was able to jump up and lick her and she winced like she didn't like it. It was nice to finally have her outside, you could tell she liked being in the sun and soaking up the rays. She is with us, she can hear us... she is taking some well deserved time and rest.
Keep praying. Good day and God Bless.
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